What Advice Would You Give To Your Fourteen-Year-Old Self?

As I have previously shared with you, I am 'obsessed' over the new Lifetime series The Conversation, where host Amanda de Cadenet interviews high-profile females from very different backgrounds. One of the questions asked by Amanda to every single participant is the following: 'What advice would you give to your fourteen-year-old self?' 
As much as I embrace the path that I had to go through to become the person that I am right now -especially the mistakes and insecurities- there are two things that I would like to whisper to the fourteen-year-old Elsa (and even to the thirty-four year old one, once in a while!) 

1. Stay away from people that make you feel bad about yourself

2. Believe in the power of your dreams

Now, it's YOUR turn: 'What advice would you give to your fourteen-year-old self?' 


  1. I would say something that seems so big in the moment will barely be a blip on your radar and not nearly as catastrophic in years to come. My mom taught me that.

  2. I think I might have to tell myself that you cannot please everyone all the time.

    BTW, thanks for stopping by my blog. :-)

  3. i always love this idea- I would definiteley tell myself to learn about personal finance early and take it seriously. I spent my early twenties figuring it out the hard way.. ugh. I seriously would slap that sense into myself if I had it to do over.

  4. Oh my, what would I tell that gawky teen? Perhaps I would tell her to be confident and always seeks good people (for both networking purposes and to counteract the other crazy people she'll meet later!) I would also tell her to just go for it in terms of her dreams because you never know!

    Chic 'n Cheap Living

  5. This is such a great question. I would tell myself to go for it. To be fearless when it came to my dreams and never give up. This really is a fabulous post, love. If you get a second, I'd love to hear what you think of my latest wedding post and guest blog for Lauren Conrad. xo


  6. Very cool and interesting. I would say, believe in yourself - even though no one else does. Love yourself and stay away from the people that hurt you because it's not your fault. And give yourself time to grow into who you are meant to be and go and see all you can. Such a cool post!! xx

  7. What an interesting question...
    I think I would tell myself to make the most of the youth time... that we have time to be grown ups! :)
    Be happy!


  8. I think I would say, "Don't take the easy way. Work harder." One reason I picked my college major was because no math was required. Really???

  9. I've been wanting to see Amanda's show but haven't gotten around to it yet. I have to figure out when it's on and set the DVR to tape the series. I've only heard great things about it.

    And that's great advice that you'd give your 14 year old self. I guess I would have told myself to believe in my abilities a bit more. I've done very well in life but I think if I knew that earlier on that I could have realized even more dreams.

    Great post! :) xoxo

  10. Stopping by from SITS - love your advice idea! I would tell my fourteen year old self to be kind to everyone. You never know where your paths will cross later in life.

  11. I am now a follower:)! Thanks for visiting my little blog and leaving such a sweet comment!

  12. Hi Elsa! Thanks for stopping by my blog. What a lovely place you have here. I can't wait to look around.

    That's a great conversation starter, I would go back and tell 14 year old Tara to stop worrying what other people will think and just do what makes you happy. To stop being afraid of failing and just try!

    Have a great day!
    From Nowhere to go But Crazy

  13. {Melinda} Don't settle. You deserve respect and you have worth. Don't shortchange yourself!

    I still have to tell myself this!

    Found you through SITS!

  14. Aw, this is cute! Thanks for visiting my blog and leaving a comment - I like yours, too! I'm following, I hope you'll follow me back. :)



  15. "Stop being so hard on yourself! You're only 14!" xo style, she wrote

  16. You your advice is so right on. I remember so many friendships and relationships that we're constant turmoil for me in my younger years. I've only just in the past few years started weeding out the negative people and I have never been happier!!

  17. Its only 4 years from me being 14, so that is a little bit harder, but I'll try it.
    This is what I would tell 14-years-old me:
    - dont trust anyone
    - believe in your dreams
    - be who you are
    - you are beautifull !

    You should read book named Dear Me. In there are letters from celebs to their 16-year-old themselfs.



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